Look, I could tell you to do affirmations or other exercises for months in front of your mirror.
It may have a positive effect. Just like preparing yourself it may help you to take action with more confidence.
But to be frank, having experiences where you face your fear is what really builds self confidence.
There is no way around it.
However, there are ways to face your fears that do not include that much shaking of the knees.
There are ways to make it easier for yourself.
- Be curious.When you are stuck in fear you are closed up. You tend to create division in your world and mind. You create barriers between you and other things/people. When you shift to being curious your perceptions go SWOOSH! and the world just opens up. Curiosity is filled with anticipation and enthusiasm. It opens you up. And when you are open and positive then you have more fun things to think about than focusing on your fear. How do you become more curious? One way is to remember how life has become more fun in the past thanks to your curiosity and to remember all the cool things it helped you to discover and experience.
- Realize that fear is often based on unhelpful interpretation.As humans we like to look for patterns. The problem is just that we often find negative and not so helpful patterns in our lives based on just one or two experiences. Or by misjudging situations. Or through some silly miscommunication. When you get too identified with your thoughts you’ll believe anything they tell you. A more helpful practice may be to not take your thoughts too seriously. A lot of the time they and your memory are pretty inaccurate.
Source : Positivity blog – Henrik Edberg